It is what makes the world go around and keeps the human race growing! However, there are some things to consider before deciding to be sexually active.
Sex is basically everywhere in our society. Flip through the radio and you are guaranteed to hear at least one song with lyrics that refer to sex or things of a sexual nature. Movies and TV shows have become comfortable with playing sex scenes on the big screen. There are books and clothes and everything in between that point to sex.
We hear how great sex is, and how empowered in can make you feel. We hear about the deep connection it can bring between two people, or the meaningless physical arousal it can produce when two people desire to have no strings attached. We hear all about selfish pleasure and image.
But what about the things that are not discussed?
For example, when someone becomes sexually active, they physically put themselves at risk for an STD and pregnancy. Emotionally, our bodies are filled with chemicals that are released during sex that bond us to that other person. Having multiple partners not only puts people at a greater risk for various STDs, but it can also form for them quite a reputation. If you are a person who claims a religion, sex outside of how it was intended can also cause guilt, and what feels like a spiritual division in your soul.
Some things to consider before sex might be:
- Do I know my partner’s sexual history/health?
- Have I shared mine with my partner?
- Am I ready to potentially get pregnant?
- Is it okay if I end up feeling bonded to this person? (Are they a spouse/someone we know is going to stay with us afterwards)
- What impact will this have on my spiritual life?
If you are unable to answer any of these questions, or you find yourself answering “no” for most of them, it may be wise to reevaluate whether to continue being sexually active. If you already are sexually active, you have the power to make the decision today to wait until marriage. If you are not yet sexually active, encourage yourself to keep taking your time until the time is right. Sex inside of marriage is a beautiful symbol of the covenant between husband and wife and comes with a lot less risks and opportunity for negativity. The truth is, you deserve a wonderful sex life, and that comes when sex is expressed in its rightful place.